A grey Valentines Day:
I am listening to three day grace’s I hate everything about you , devouring a bucket full of special pistachio ice cream and trying to type out words related to the lovey dovey Valentines’ day. I am not all time loner or I hate everything romantic kind of person nor am I on pms but thing is romantically not every day makes you fly high over skies. In such a state of mind writing about the day of romance is hard. So I have been brainstorming to avoid being clichéd yet satisfy the spirit of this day.
Most people are bound to get high on dopamine because literally red is in the air but what am I wondering is how do the forever alones or the ones who are in complicated relationships or long distance relationships or heartbroken feel when hearts and flowers are pushed in their faces from every corner of the street? A grey valentines day.
Depressing everything would be or maybe they might be feeling like ripping everybody’s throats off.
Fallacious fairy tale – A grey Valentines Day:
I might end up on the same list this year so yeah, it’s very important to find a way out of spending the whole day in bed sleeping and brooding.
My first advice is to mentally prepare yourself to pamper yourself and dig for more fun if your other option is literally to be cursing your life whole day.
A blogger friend once said:
“Treat your neglected self because people who love too much often neglect their own selves in process of loving others. Plus I would add if by any chance you don’t get to celebrate the day it so you should not end up feeling as if there is some void in your life”.
For me too Valentines Day means something similar, it is to break free from your busy life sucking routines and spread love. Give reminders to yourself and your loved ones that you care even if earning a living or managing house keeps you busy and this fast life doesn’t let you repeatedly say iloveyous or do tiny special things but deep inside you always are in love. And that person genuinely matters a lot. Many people have issues digesting the concept of a particular day denoted to the expression of love; umm guys do you really do special things very often throughout the year? I don’t think so; if you do I very much appreciate it and keep doing it guys. People like you aren’t very common. But for the rest busy bees that need a push, Valentine’s Day is an opportunity not to miss. If you are like nobody loves me go spread happiness among strangers. Don’t sit there ogling over the agony of being a loner- take control this grey Valentines Day.
If you are into science of hows and whys? I would add part of an interesting conversation I had with a friend. This social scientist friend of mine has a very interesting say on what exactly drives people this very day:
“Valentines day causes people to focus mainly on their ‘special somebody’ instead of taking in the greater part of their surroundings into account. There is a psychological theory that explains it of course. What happens is that when you’re concentrating on only someone or something, you end up using an excessive amount of cognition that renders you incapable of dividing your attention to everything else surrounding you”.
So this February I am going to tip you with ideas to lighten up your valentines day for yourself and your loved ones:
So what can you really do if you are sitting in a maze of confusion?
First of all, make a list of all special people, if a lover is in it then well and good, if not don’t take it to heart. Rather look forward to spending a day with someone who is special in whatever way and can add blingyblings to your valentines day. Plan special things for everyone including yourself. Self-love is important too.
Buy yourself something that you have been laying eyes on for quite a while, something that brings you happiness and attach a note to it, which reads:
“You deserve it, for waking up every day with spirit to strive for your goals once again”.
Then give away cards, flowers, chocolates, tiny baskets filled with something tiny yet heartwarming or love letters.
Want more ideas?
Some thoughtful and customized presents could be:
- A memory box. Haven’t made one? It’s the time! Collect pictures, notes, tiny memorable souvenirs put them in a box to make your own treasure chest of memories.
- Make a timeline album or slam book.
- Customized t-shirts get your personal jokes, nick names, and literary tag lines written on.
- Pillows etc.
- The lucky ones who are not separated by physical distance can also plan a dinner date.
- Soft music with candle light -Impress your partner with your cooking skills.
- Watch a romantic flick.
To lighten up your significant other’s day leaving short sticky notes is a good idea. Not only it will cheer them up but also is fine way to perk up romance. Inexpensive ideas done with all heart are even better than an expensive gift.
After writing this all and the discussions I had with friends I finally have my plans for coming 14th ready. Beside attending German and Statistics class at college I will call special people and catch up with them. Buy myself flowers and also send some to my bestfriends. Read some good poetry especially Pablo Nerudo. And I would like to dedicate a favorite poem of Pablo for all the lovers out there.
(1904 – 1973)
If You Forget Me
I want you to know
You know how this is:
if I look
at the crystal moon, at the red branch
of the slow autumn at my window,
if I touch
near the fire
the impalpable ash
or the wrinkled body of the log,
everything carries me to you,
as if everything that exists,
aromas, light, metals,
were little boats
toward those isles of yours that wait for me.
if little by little you stop loving me
I shall stop loving you little by little.
you forget me
do not look for me,
for I shall already have forgotten you.
If you think it long and mad,
the wind of banners
that passes through my life,
and you decide
to leave me at the shore
of the heart where I have roots,
that on that day,
at that hour,
I shall lift my arms
and my roots will set off
to seek another land.
if each day,
you feel that you are destined for me
with implacable sweetness,
if each day a flower
climbs up to your lips to seek me,
ah my love, ah my own,
in me all that fire is repeated,
in me nothing is extinguished or forgotten,
my love feeds on your love, beloved,
and as long as you live it will be in your arms
Without leaving mine. — Pablo Neruda.
Enjoy the people of planet earth and spread the eternal beauty of love and humanity. Good day.